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Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Why Pursue Your Passion

Why Pursue Your Passion

Do you know what your passion really is?  Do you know how to figure out what your passion really is?  Do you have any idea why pursuing your passion is so important?

Let me start with the last question.

When you are pursuing your passion, your physical, mental, spiritual and emotional health is optimal.  When you are pursuing your passion, all those elements are aligned and focused.  The alignment is the part that affects your health.

Ill health, be it physical, mental, spiritual or emotional is often the consequence of negative stresses in our lives.  Medical studies have cited over and over the adverse health consequences of negative stress in our lives.  It leads from lowered immune systems and higher blood pressure all the way to heart disease and may even be linked to cancer.

Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud may have had their disagreements, but both agreed that the human psyche is made up of three parts.  Freud called them the Id, Ego, and SuperEgo while Jung referred to them as the Ego, Animus, and Self.  Even modern medical science recognizes three elements, although they have trouble tacitly acknowledging the third element.  Physicians recognize that every person has a mind, a body, and some third power that keeps both of those other two running.  When it leaves, it doesn't matter how healthy the mind and body are, the whole system collapses and death occurs.

Because I believe in God and the everlasting nature of people, I am going to refer to this third element as our Spirit.  If you want to argue with me about the names or nature of these three parts, don't.  Take it up with Freud and Jung first.  If you get them to concede, we can talk.
Your body is the sum of your physical assets.  Your muscles, organs, tissues, etc.  When your body is working smoothly, you can accomplish your physical tasks with grace, skill and power.

You mind is your intellectual assets.  The knowledge, wisdom and experiences you have gathered up along your journey through life.  When your mid is working smoothly, your thoughts are clear and focused and your knowledge and memories come to the surface even more quickly than you realize you need them as you accomplish your tasks with insight, focus, and innovation.

Your spirit is your will.  It is what is absolutely most important to you.  It is what you truly want.  When your spirit is working well, there is nothing that can stop you.  When your spirit is not working well, there is almost nothing you can accomplish.

Let me give a couple of examples to illustrate what happens when these three are misaligned.

The professional basketball player has a body and mind that are wholly aligned with and prepared for the rigors of the game of basketball.  But, if the Pro Player decides (exercises his will) that he is bored with the game and wants a new challenge - we say his heart isn't in it anymore.  So, even though his mind and body are the same and still fully capable of playing the game in a peak performance, because his spirit isn't aligned with what the body and mind are doing, his performance will degrade.

In a similar manner that pro basketball player may truly love the game.  But his knees are badly damaged because of so much high impact from jumping and landing hard or, more commonly, his shoulder is damaged beyond repair.  He is still often capable of delivering some excellent moments, as his spirit and mind drive his body beyond its limits.  But, his performance will degrade.

Finally, even if that pro basketball player has a superbly conditioned body and the will to play, but his mind is clouded by a blow to the head or through illness, disease, or drugs, then his body and spirit will not be able to make up the difference and his performance will degrade.

What is true for the pro basketball player is equally true for the executive or the laborer.  The demands on mind, body and spirit may be different in each role, but without all three functioning properly and is some degree of alignment, our performance will degrade.

When you are doing things that are bad for your body, causing it distress, it is because your mind or spirit has ordered it.  As the body is distressed, it automatically produces chemicals into your blood stream which directly affect the mind and indirectly affect your spirit.

Or, to look at it another way, when your mind, body, and spirit are misaligned, the three spheres or disks are banging around against each other creating dings, dents, and friction whenever they collide with each other.


In contrast, when body, mind and spirit are all aligned and truly have the same purpose, they resemble a bulls eye target.
Aligned, they are able to work together without friction and allow all the energy and resources of your body, mind and spirit to work together in harmony.  When this happens, you are "in the zone."

Do you recall what it feels like to be in the zone?  You are firing on all cylinders.  Whatever you are focused on has your full attention and the effort is moving at a smooth and rapid pace, progressing and overcoming obstacles almost without effort.  Time becomes irrelevant and you are almost unaware of its passing.  Even the need for food and drink seems to fade away.

Suddenly, you stop and realize that what seemed like mere moments to you has actually been the passing of hours.  Yet, you feel almost more energized when you are done than when you started.  You are excited about what you have just accomplished and would love nothing better than to share what you have done with someone else who can appreciate the beauty and difficulty of what you have just brought to pass.

If you have ever found yourself "in the zone" like this, take the time to consider deeply what you were doing.  For me, it happens most frequently when I am writing or teaching.  I noticed over the years that often when I taught a class or delivered a speech I felt more energized afterward than I had any right to be, given the hour and amount of energy I had just expended.  And, there didn't seem to be a particular topic that excited me more than another.

If I was teaching computer programming and able to illustrate the concepts in ways that my students understood, or teaching Sunday School and people were grasping how these truths could be applied to make their lives happier, either way I would come away energized and eager to invest more time in teaching them.

Likewise when writing.  Whether I am writing an instructional manual, a business article, or a fantasy novel, I often find myself focused on my writing to exclusion of everything around me.

Finding Your Passion
Using Zone Analysis(TM).   Being in the zone is a symptom of your passion.  Look over your life and identify when and where you have been in the zone.  Find the common thread(s) in all those most recent experiences.  Was it what you were doing?  Was it the kind of people you were with?  Was it where you were?  Who, what and where are good places to start to understand your passion.

For me, the common thread was communicating ideas in simple ways that allowed people to understand and use them to better themselves.  It didn't matter if I was doing it face-to-face or through the written word.  Of course, when I do it face-to-face and see the light go on in somebody's eyes it is a really big reward for me.

If you have never found yourself in the zone, then you have a more difficult challenge.  The best way I know to start to figure out your passion when you have never really been in the zone is to play The Funeral Game (TM).  Yeah, I know it sounds bad, but keep reading.

Imagine you are getting to listen in at your own funeral.  What is it that you want to hear said about you from your family, your boss, your coworkers, your friends, leaders in your community?  Write all this down as imaginary eulogies.  Then pick it apart for the common threads to figure out what is really important to you.  Figuring out what is important to you is going to get you very close, if not right on top of, your passion.

By the way, before I ever did the Zone Analysis(TM) I did The Funeral Game (TM).  The latter helped me understand that I really have a passion for helping people to succeed.  The former helped me to confirm what I had learned in The Funeral Game (TM).

Your Passion Changes
Oh, and just because you get in the zone doing something, doesn't mean that will always be your passion.  Like the superstar who consistently beats all comers and is the undisputed champion, sometimes suddenly retires and pursues something else entirely because they have lost their passion for that particular challenge.  We were never meant to be one-trick-ponies.  When we have truly become the master of one area of passion and are world-class in our performance, it is natural and right that we then move on to face another challenge and learn to master it too.

When you know what is your passion and you can invest your time in it, life becomes much easier.  Our health is better and life is more fulfilling in every way.

That brings me to the next challenge for many of us, finding a way to make a living doing what we love.

Hey, you didn't think I would be able to answer all your questions in one short blog, did you?
Thanks for Being a Good Friend to me.  Let me Give something back to you!

Tom Sheppard has been successfully investing in real estate since 2001 while working part time. In 2008 he left a six-figure job as an enterprise project manager with a major national bank to manage his real estate business full-time. His goal is to help 100,000 people find peace of mind by finding quality, affordable homes. Why pay retail when you can buy a home at below market prices? www.buybelowmarket.com. He is currently looking to expand his network of funding partners who are helping him achieve this goal. If you would like to know more about how you can do well by doing good, contact Tom at TSheppard@CharlotteWealthPartners.com

The Funeral Game and Zone Analysis are trademarks of A+ Results, LLC and may not be used without permission and acknowledgement.

Friday, November 4, 2011

My Mega Partners
In October of this year I was privileged to attend JT Foxx's premier partnering event Mega Partners IV in Chicago.  It was unquestionably the highlight event of the year and well worth the time and money I spent to be there.  JT pioneered this unique event for business people.  The three days (four for VIP ticket buyers) were packed from 7 or 8 am each day to 7 or 8 pm or later.

He brought in entrepreneurs from as far away as Germany and Australia and gave us an unrelenting barrage of extremely valuable information on ways to build our business, without subjecting us to an onslaught of pitchmen offering us a get rich quick solution along with a set of ginzu knives if we buy right now.

He succeeded in getting Jay Abraham, a renown marketing genius and partner of JT, to spend a total of about four hours over two days educating us on the power of relational capital and strategic alliances.  Because of my work with JT and Jay in launching their AbrahamFoxx brand, I was among a small group of people who got to meet privately with Jay and JT.


While at the event, I realized I had not taken good care of my relational capital.  I resolved to mend my ways.  So, you will see in this post a window where you can put yourself on my list.  I am sending out emails to everyone on my private email list and directing them to this blog post.

I don't believe in using private emails to do business.  So, I am giving all of my friends, family, and associates the opportunity to add themselves to my business mailing list.  Once on the main list, I will give them a chance to get periodic email updates from me or to get on smaller lists that are focused on specific businesses I am engaged in.

Thanks for Being a Good Friend to me.  Let me Give something back to you!


For instance, I have published several ebooks recently and am about to publish a hardcopy book with XLibris Press called "Fire Yourself: Get the Job You Want."  Those who want to keep tabs on what I am doing to help people manage their careers toward stable employment can get on a list where they will be notified of my work in that area.

I am also in the midst of doing a real estate for 18 houses valued at $1.2mm.  Those who would like to learn about investing in real estate and learn how to get their money working for them instead of spending all their time working for their money can opt to participate in that smaller list.

I hope you will take the time to add your name to my list of friends, family and associates.  I promise I won't abuse your trust in putting your name on my list.

Thanks for Being a Good Friend to me.  Let me Give something back to you!


  • I won't sell or rent your information to anyone else
  • I won't send irrelevant emails
  • I won't SPAM you with tons of emails 

While at Mega Partnering, I met Rudy Giuliani, former Mayor of New York City, the man who was foremost in leadership when the World Trade Center was destroyed by terrorists on 9/11.  He shared with us his secrets of leadership.  For those of us in the VIP dinner we got a second, more informal, dose of his wonderful spirit during the VIP dinner.


Another headliner at the event is a man I have had the honor and pleasure of meeting on several occassions, Dr. Nido Qubein (http://www.nidoqubein.com/).  Nido is currently the President of High Point University (http://www2.highpoint.edu/) in High Point, North Carolina, he is the Chairman of Great Harvest Bread Company and sits on the Board of Directors of BB&T, La-Z-Boy, and other companies.  He wrote a very kind remark for the cover of my book "Fire Yourself: Get the Job You Want."

Nido is always a compelling and entertaining speaker.  In the VIP Dinner everyone got to see a side of him that most audiences miss as he and JT verbally sparred.  In Nido, JT has more than met his match when it comes to exchanging witticisms.


Of course, aside from instruction by some of the most successful people in business today, the biggest benefit of Mega Partnering was all the wonderful people I met and either renewed connections or made new connections with.  I am certain that I will be doing business with many of these people over the course of the next year and beyond.  This is the real power of Mega Partnering, learning how to network with people and then networking with them and collaborating to lift each other to new heights of success and abundance.  If I didn't do a single deal as a result of Mega Partnering, I would still be a much richer man from all the relationships I established with high quality people at this event.

I was so much in awe of the power of the event that I signed up for the next one without waiting to hear who would be attending or where it will be held or even how much it cost. I know it will be worth the investment.

Thanks for Being a Good Friend to me.  Let me Give something back to you!


One of the things JT learned from Nido and which he prides himself on doing is WOWing people.  You know what a WOW is?  That is when something unexpectedly nice happens and you automatically say "Wow!"  JT literally got a "Wow" from me at Mega Partnering when Joe Gnapp, his VP of Mentoring slipped me a piece of paper announcing that we would soon have a visit from Stedman Graham (http://stedmangraham.com/) and I was invited to have my picture taken with him after he was done speaking (actually it was to be done before, but Chicago traffic delayed his arrival and we did the photos after he spoke).


His talk was very powerful as he taught us not to be captives to the past, but rather to live in the future we create.  I had heard of Stedman before because of his association with Oprah Winfrey, but I really didn't know much about him.  After hearing him speak, I am impressed and want to learn more about what he has to say and what he is doing.  I know JT worked really hard to make a connection with Mr. Graham and Nido helped make it happen for him.  I guess that is what friends are for.

And to Leasha and Torrance who I met for the first time at Mega Partnering and to Oz who I met again - Semper Fidelis.

And if you want to know how you can attend the next Mega Partnering for free, contact me.  Because of my insider status, I can often get free General Admission for a limited number of people.  But act quickly, this opportunity will likely go away soon.

Thanks for Being a Good Friend to me.  Let me Give something back to you!

Tom Sheppard has been successfully investing in real estate since 2001 while working part time. In 2008 he left a six-figure job as an enterprise project manager with a major national bank to manage his real estate business full-time. His goal is to help 100,000 people find peace of mind by finding quality, affordable homes.   He is currently looking to expand his network of funding partners who are helping him achieve this goal. If you would like to know more about how you can Do Well By Doing Good (TM), contact Tom at TSheppard@CharlotteWealthPartners.com

Sunday, February 27, 2011

New Name Coming - Making Lemons into Lemonaide

I have been publishing this blog for some time now under the current title of Easy Money in Real Estate: Telling You How Real Estate is Really Done.  I have decided that a makeover is in order.

I am going to rename this blog to be "The Lemonaide Stand" and integrate it with my electronic newsletter (coming soon).  Yes, I am aware that I am using an old way of spelling lemonade, since in current dictionaries he "i" after the "a" has been dropped.  I am spelling it this way deliberately to emphasize the "aid" nature of this endeavor.

When, I first started this column is was with the intention of actually dispelling the myth that it is easy to make big money in real estate.  I have listened to many "experts" sell their solutions on how to make lots of money really fast in real estate.  They are still selling that line to those who will listen.  I know that making big money in real estate is very possible.  It is even very simple at times, but it is never easy.  No one should ever confuse simple and easy.  That is a very dangerous and costly confusion to deal with.

So, I am emphasizing the aid element in my new endeavor.  It is based on the aphorism that when life gives you lemons, make lemonade, or lemonaide.

There are lots of lemons being handed out in today's economy; unemployment and foreclosures to name two of the biggest that many people face.  My desire with "The Lemonaide Stand" is to provide a forum where people of ordinary means can find ways to turn the lemons life is handing them into something good, lemons into lemonaide.

Shakespeare asked, "What's in a name? A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."  No disrespect to the Bard, but a name means a lot.  In the past this column was focused pretty narrowly on real estate, and although there will be a real estate related thread in the newsletter (and hence this column) there is more to the Lemonaide stand than real estate.

Imagine for a moment that you are living the life you want.  How does it feel inside you when you imagine that?  Can you actually feel the easing of tension in your chest, neck and back?  Do you feel the warm rush of well-being suffuse your body as the endorphins (or as I jokingly call them n-dolphins) swim through your blood stream at the speed of thought?  I do.  I am going to help you to Get and Keep the Life You Want (tm).

We will deal with Work, Relationships, Wealth, and Health.  You will learn to:
  • Get and Keep the Job You Want (tm)
  • Get and Keep the Relationships You Want (tm)
  • Get and Keep the Wealth You Want (tm)
  • Get and Keep the Health You Want (tm)

I am in a fairly unusual position.  I know quite a few people who are living the life they want.  I will bring to you their stories.  I will help you to apply their lessons to your life so that you can Get and Keep the Life You Want(tm).

Aside from knowing some very successful, fulfilled people, "what qualifies Tom to do this?" you ask.  Well, I am pretty much living the life I want, and have for several years.  So, learning from others and knowing a few things for myself, having done some things that very few people around me have, and having the desire to help, qualifies me for the job.

So, I hope you will subscribe (click on the "Follow" button) and follow this newsletter, not just tune in once in a while.  I hope you will read it and challenge what I say.  But most of all, I hope you will decide to do what you need to do to Get and Keep the Life You Want(tm).

Tom Sheppard has been successfully investing in real estate since 2001 while working part time. In 2008 he left a six-figure job as an enterprise project manager with a major national bank to manage his real estate business full-time. His goal is to help 100,000 people find peace of mind by finding quality, affordable homes. Why pay retail when you can buy a home at below market prices? www.buybelowmarket.com. He is currently looking to expand his network of funding partners who are helping him achieve this goal. If you would like to know more about how you can do well by doing good, contact Tom at TSheppard@ADBProperties.com